Showing posts with label children. Show all posts
Showing posts with label children. Show all posts

Thursday, January 2, 2025

Reward

 



This little boy and little girl,

brother and sister,

observedly well-behaved,

told by their parents 

to stay where they're at.


Enjoying an ice cream reward.

Trying to make them last.

Wanting to slow down time.



While their parents market

their colorful, glossy pottery

in Tubac, Arizona.

© 2025 Richard Havenga




Sunday, May 12, 2024

Flowers for Mommy

 

When Aaron was four years old

he walked from our backyard

into the wooded ravine.


He spotted the beautiful trilliums

growing with pure white radiance

in the cool shade of the woods.



He picked some with his soft hands.

He picked some with his kind heart.

He picked some as a precious gift.


A handful of happiness for his Mommy.

Then he carried them back home

with warm love shining in his eyes.



They were more elegant, more dazzling,

than the common dandelions

he gave her yesterday.



These trilliums were the sweetest,

most tender and generous gift

she had received since his birth.

© 2024 Richard Havenga




Photo Locations:

1. 2. & 3. Ada Township - Kent County - Michigan






Thursday, July 6, 2023

The Promise

 

The unassuming bud

contains no envy

for the beauty of the blossom.



Rather, it consecrates.

Is honored to enclose its contents. 

To open the certainty of growth.



The promise of fulfillment.

The fulfillment of the promise;

like a mother giving birth.



The child being born.

A unique individual,

blossoming with promise.

© 2023 Richard Havenga




Photo Locations:

1. 2. 3. 4. Home Garden - Cannonsburg, Michigan




Sunday, June 19, 2022

He Carried Her

 for Sarah D'Amico


He carried her around the house,

from window to window,

pointing out things to view.


And with a small,

three-year-old finger,

Sarah pointed too.


And repeated the words she

heard from her daddy: 

"tree, flower, bird".


At age five he carried her

into the family canoe on the Flat River;

counting turtles on the rocks and logs.


He ran beside her at seven,

as she wavered and learned

to ride a two-wheeler.


He picked her up in high school

when she was exhausted from

track and cross-country practice.


He brought her to college;

University of Michigan,

and praised her for good grades.


And brought her home, age twenty,

that tragic November,

when her only brother died.


He said, "Goodbye, I'll miss you,"

when she left home to explore her life;

Hawaii, California, Utah, Colorado.


He applauded her guitar music,

as she wrote her own songs

and shared her smooth voice.


He carried her in his prayers

every time he thought of her

making a positive impact in the world.


His eyes teared each time he read her

sweet notes in homemade Father's Day cards,

always ending with: 




"I Love You Daddy!" 

© 2022 Richard Havenga


Photo Location: Platte River - Honor, Michigan







Monday, September 23, 2019

Time to Play




The children climb 
off the school bus
with promise in their faces,
with hope in their hearts.

They eat the

chocolate chip cookies
mommy baked for them,
then change into their old clothes,

because when he gets home,

Daddy will make time,
Daddy will take time,
to play outside.
© 2019 Richard Havenga



You may also enjoy: 

"A Father's Day Message" ~ June 20, 2015


Photo Location: Kent County - Michigan




Monday, May 20, 2019

Eight Years


The little boy
carries lilacs
in his warm hands,
into the warm kitchen
where his mother is 
baking brownies for him.



She accepts
his precious gift of lavender,
inhales the fragrance of spring,
her eyes glistening with love;
his eyes sparkling with pride.



Remembering the spring
he was born
eight years ago;



eight years since
her husband
brought her lilacs
from the same bush.
© 2019 Richard Havenga





Photo Locations: Kent County - Michigan



Monday, December 17, 2018

Spent



Like the spent shells
along the the shallow shore,
we are scattered upon the earth;

grouped and gathered,
bunched and belonging,
longing to be noticed.



Selected from the many
prized and possessed,
collected on a shelf.


Collecting dust, seldom noticed,
but admired by children
spending their curiosity.
© 2018 Richard Havenga




Photo Locations:

1. Sanibel Isand, Florida

2. Delnor Wiggins State Park - Naples, Florida

3. Home Library - Cannonsburg, Michigan



Monday, October 8, 2018

Return


With the hungry curiosity
that opens young minds,


and the intrinsic value
of observations outdoors,


Let us all return with
respect and gratitude:

to the woods and wetlands,
to the fields and prairies,
to the lakes and rivers,
to the meadows and mountains,
to the oceans' shores;

relevant with wonder,
resonant with mystery.
© 2018 Richard Havenga





You may also enjoy one of my oldest posts from my first week of blogging: 
Find Your Place ~ April 10, 2012

A special thanks to: Ross & Chanda Peterson; Jess & Max Causer for permission to photograph their children. 



Photo Locations:

1, 2, & 3. Home Woods - Cannonsburg, Michigan

4. Payson, Arizona




Friday, May 5, 2017

Angel Voices


When I close my eyes in church,
at the Friday morning mass,
the transparent voices
of the children's choir
mingle with the 
voices of angels.

And the people
in the pews 
at St. Patrick's
are praying:
"Let us rejoice
and be glad!"
© 2017 Richard Havenga
Psalm 118:24




Photo Location:

St. Patrick's Church - Parnell, Michigan


Monday, September 12, 2016

Still



Do you still listen
to the rain
like you did
as a child?


Does it still dance
upon the water,
shout on the streets,
sing through the trees?

Have you listened lately?


We can still live our lives

as if everything spoke to us.

Walk out into this new day,

or into the dark, still night;
then stop.
Look.
Listen.
© 2016 Richard Havenga



Photo Location:

Pickerel Lake Park / Meijer Nature Preserve Kent County, Michigan 



Monday, September 21, 2015

Watching the Sky





Child: "Grandpa, where does the sky begin ?"

Grandpa: "It begins above your head."

Child: "Are you in the sky Grandpa?"

Grandpa: "No, not quite, but I'll be there soon."

Child: "Will I be able to see you up there?"

Grandpa: "No, but I will be able to see you."

Child: "I'll be watching the sky, Grandpa."

Grandpa: "I'll be watching you."

© 2015 Richard Havenga





Photo Locations: 

1. SaddleBrooke - Oro Valley, Arizona 

2. Catalina State Park - Catalina, Arizona

Saturday, June 20, 2015

A Father's Day Message


I originally published this post in 2012. Re-published it in 2013, and 2014. During this time, some fathers have been added, and some have passed away. Happy Father's Day in 2015!


A Writer/Naturalist I've greatly admired since 1989, Rick Bass, loves his daughters dearly. In his 2009 book, The Wild Marsh (Four Seasons at Home in Montana) (Wild Marsh) , he ponders the fast and relentless pace of childhood as he watches his children grow.

In the "July" chapter, Bass writes:

"I know I'm doing what I can to slow it down. Reading to them in the evenings, cooking with them, taking them on hikes, and swimming in the mountain lakes.

"Any activity I do with them could be done faster and more efficiently, but only recently have I come to understand that the slower and more inefficiently we do things, the greater is my gain, our gain; the less quickly that galloping stretch of time passes...

"If I'll only watch and listen, they'll show me -- for a while -- how to slow time down: instructing me in a way that I could never otherwise learn from the caring counsel of my friends, and their experiences."


If you are blessed with children, and they are a blessing, I hope you are enjoying them as they are growing through their years; growing through your years.

Over the past 20 years, I've become very verbal when I see Fathers interacting with their children, in positive, caring, and fun ways. Especially when they are outdoors: in the park, at the playground, messing around in the creek, going fishing, watching insects up close, or spotting planets in the night sky. They may be working in the garden with their kids, raking leaves, building a snowman, taking a hike, exploring the woods, or simply balancing on an elevated log:



Whether I'm running, walking, biking, or even driving by, I'll often stop, and announce across the distance, to guys I don't even know, and will never see again:

"WAY TO BE A GOOD DAD!"


I know this great Father. This is Ross Peterson with five of their six adopted children. His good wife Chanda, Home Schools these fine kids. We've known Ross since birth. He was our son Aaron's best friend as they were growing from boyhood into manhood.

I've been doing this small, but important, act of recognition since 1994. Now, I would like all of you to join me in this special mission. Six, simple, one-syllable words to say:

"WAY TO BE A GOOD DAD !"

Give the compliment. Spend it, don't save it. Give it all you've got. Someday it may come back to you.


To the upcoming list of Good Fathers I know, some of the older guys will remember the simple phrase from a "Sweet Baby James" (Taylor) song:

"Shower the people you love with love,
 Show them the way that you feel"

And bring them to church with you, so the entire family can get to know Our Father, who art in Heaven...









Some Good Fathers I Know


Rick Adamy
Jeff Agar
Rick Amann
Roger Anderson
Ned Andre
Randy Argall
Matt Bailey
Matthew Bailey
Jason Balgavy
Lazarus Banks
Jeff Belmonte
Wade Bernreuter
Andy Biermacher
Tom Blackford Sr.  *
Tom Blackford Jr.
Matt Block
Tom Brege
John Brillhart  *
Matt Burton
Chad Carlisle
Dirk Casmier
Jesse Causer
Charles Clark
Mike Clark
Terry Cliff
Joe Costello
Eric Curtiss
Scott Czarnopys
Don Dahlquist
John D'Amico
Paul Damon
Dave Dessellier
Nathan DeVos
Kevin DeVries
Alex DeYonker
Jim Dillenburg
Peter Draugalis Sr. *
Peter Draugalis Jr. *
Tim Duitsman
Dale Dykema
Kevin Ecclesine
Bud Elve
Dick Farrer
Jerry Field
Steve Foote
Bob Gansler
Santiago Garcia
Bill Geldersma
Gil Girtz
Paul Gordon
Dennis Gray
Lee Grogg
Gary Harmon
William Havenga *
Richard J. Havenga*
Bill Havenga*
Jim Havenga
John Havenga
Bill Henkel
Chis Henkel
Jim Henkel
Kelly Henkel
Pat Henkel
Richard Henkel *
Ryan Henkel
Terry Henkel
Tom Henkel
Richard Heroux *
Gord Herrema
Greg Hewitt
Andrew Hoekstra
Jeremy Howard
Josh Howerton
Ken Hume
Ken Hyink
Andy Jackson
Jason Janoski
Ryan Jett
Benny Johnson
Pete Johnson
Al Jongekrijg
Scott Jongekrijg
Todd Jongekrijg
Joe Junewick
Chris Karlson
Jeff Karlson
Jerry Karlson
Matt Karlson
Nate Karlson
Dick Kearns
John Keenoy Sr. *
Steve Kelly
Ernie Kenneway
Jason Kinzler *
Rick Kircheis
Harry Konyenbelt
Jeff Kowatch
Tony Kubat
Dale Lamps
Mike Lannan
Justin Leslie
Jim Long
John Longcore
Dave Lenox
Scott Lenox
Bob Mack
Jason Mahar
James Martin
Scott McDaid
Bob McElliott
Joe McGrath
Bob McIntyre *
Don Melvin
John Merchun
Jason Meyer
John Miller
Scott Mince
Steve Mueller
Mike Murphy
Jason Nielsen
Chris Norman *
Heath Oberloh
Jeff Odem
Russ Olivier
Jessy Ouzts
Lou Palmerlee *
Joe Partin
Kirk Partin
Wayne Partin
Father Mark Peacock
Joel Peterson
Marc Peterson
Merle Peterson
Ross Peterson
Jason Piotrowski
Pete Prina
Phil Provost
Tom Rademacher
Dave Ramsey
Jay Reed
Jeff Reminga
Jon Rick
Dathan Ritzenhein
Carlos H. Rodriguez
Gary Roode
Curtis Rowe
Peter Rowe
Michael Ryan
Bob Salik *
Roy Shaw
John Shelton
Bob Siegel
Joel Siemens
Mike Sissing
Bill Sleeman
Brad Smith
Wilton Smith
Larry Snyder
Jim Sowle
Chuck Spliedt
Rydder Sprik
Denny Stelzer
Joe Stojak
Jim Stone
Lee Strassburger
Dan Takens
Chuck Tappa
Jim Taylor Sr. *
Jim Taylor Jr. *
Steve Tebeau
Manny Tendero
John Thomas
Owen Thompson
Brad Thorsted
Jim Timmer III
Bill Trowbridge
Greg Uhlenbrock
Hank Uhlenbrock *
Justin VanSpronsen
Dan Villalobos
Tom Vincent
Max Weighmink
Mel Westbrook
Joe Wilusz
Terry Winkle
Wayne Witt
Mike Zoerhoff


* Deceased




My Father: Richard John Havenga  (1923-2006)  I Love you Dad.


My only Son: Aaron Richard Havenga  (1975-1994) I Love you Aaron. I miss you Buddy.





Aaron would have been an excellent Father, but his Heavenly Father called him home early.





So, can you really slow down the passage of time? No.  But there are ways to enjoy the passing of time.

Think: There may not be a next time.

Live each day as if life is a blessing.

Take time.

Make time.

This time.

Now, my friends, here is the best daughter this world has created, and I thank God that she is my daughter, a true blessing in my life... Sarah Havenga. I love you Sarah.






Remember the six words.


You may also like to read: Journey of a Journal - April 2, 2013.



Photo Locations:

1. & 2. Home Woods.

3. & 4. St. Andrew's Cathedral, (St. Andrew's) Grand Rapids, Michigan

5. First Home

6. Lake Michigan - Pentwater State Park,  Michigan 

7. Platte River - Sleeping Bear Dunes National Lakeshore,  Michigan